How to text for help when you're sad :-(
Updated: Oct 7
Since the start of the pandemic, depression, overdose, and suicide rates have risen dramatically... here are simple texts you can send when you're feeling down, to friends, family, even to anonymous chat lines. People want to help you and support you. You are not alone.
I lost a brother to overdose just over 2 years ago... while I don't and can't believe it was intentional, it broke me. So this is an issue close to my heart. First off, know that you are never alone. There's always someone you can reach out to that will just help and listen and be there for you. Some of us are lucky enough to have a solid support system in our lives, and I can say personally that without my faith and the support of my friends and family, there are times in my life that it's questionable if I would've made it through.
Everyone one of us struggles at various times (like during a global pandemic)... it's totally normal and natural. If you are in one of these moments, I want to encourage you to reach out and copy/paste a text below. It can be hard to open up and ask for help, let alone finding the words sometimes... I get it, and I want to make it easier for you. Also I'm sharing things that I personally use to feel better when I'm feeling down.
Text to send when you're feeling down:
Hey... are you around? Can we talk? I'm feeling down :/
I'm in a funk right now... can we do a zoom call and catch up?
I need to vent, just about life n'stuff. Are you there?
I'm sorry but I could really use some help... are you around?
Hey - I'm struggling right now... can you call me?
I need help. :-(
Can you talk? I could use your cheesy ass humor rn...
Covid really sux. I miss everyone. :(
Free counseling via text:
If you need help right now, text the message "HOME" to the number below and you'll be connected with a crisis counselor. Free support is available 24/7 and they are ready to help you!
- US/Canada text 741741
- UK text 85258
- Ireland text 086 1800 280
My personal feel happier techniques:
Getting outside for a 10 minute walk/jog or finding a yoga video on YouTube.com... there's TONS of free ones.
Playing the piano and improving... letting emotions and anxiety out through music
Writing everything down with an actual pen and paper. The tactile experience of emotionally vomiting words on paper is a huge release.
Volunteering to help others in need. I use volunteermatch.org to find opportunities, and currently have an 83-yr-old pen pal who's in a senior care facility. Getting out of my own head always helps me better.
Prayer and meditation... Calm and Headspace are apps that both have free meditations.
Focusing on faith and hope: "For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." Jeremiah 29:11 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 (my mom's fave)
I'll just ask myself "What can I do right now to feel better?" Sometimes it's taking a nap, calling a friend, having a slice of cake, glass of wine, whatever it is. (remember moderation with food/alcohol!)
Please use these texts to reach out and connect with people in your life, maybe try one of my happiness techniques, and remember... The sun is always still shining behind the cloudy skies. <3
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Until next time... stay safe and stay healthy my friends!!